What are signs that a child is using the Internet in an unsafe manner?Some warning signs that your child might be using the Internet in unsafe ways are:
- Your child is online for excessive amounts of time, specifically when nobody is home, or late at night
- You find pornography or other inappropriate or explicit photos of your child or his/her friends on your child’s computer or smartphone
- Your child acts flustered or abnormal when you walk into the room by changing the screen, turning the monitor or quickly changing the view on his/her smartphone
- Internet history and cookies are deleted regularly after your child uses the computer/smartphone browser
What is an appropriate way to respond to a child’s misuse of the internet?The most important thing is to remember is that you want to keep the lines of communication open. Don’t overreact if you think that your child is viewing or using inappropriate or questionable content and websites.
Remember, these acts are not always malicious and your child may not know the severity of their actions, so calmly discuss with your child the dangers associated with visiting inappropriate web sites and be open to answering any questions they might have. It is not too soon to have these conversations. Do not wait until middle school to talk about consequences of inappropriate behavior online.
What steps can parents take to make sure their children are safe online?For most families, the days of keeping the computer in a central location are over because so many kids have laptop and smartphones. Parents don’t realize that with smartphones, their children have the power of the Internet in their hands, literally. If your child has a laptop, you need to create a “doors open” rule when your child is on the laptop so that you may watch what they are doing.
Also, don’t forget to pay attention to what they are doing on their smartphone. Chances are that if your child has a smartphone, you are the one paying the bill. Set clear expectations when you give the smartphone to your child, that ultimately you, the parent, are the owner of the device, not them. Therefore you should have access to it whenever needed. Your job as a parent is to protect your children, first and foremost. Keep track of the hours they are using the phone and if there is an excessive use of data, as this can also signal dangerous behavior.
What dangerous online trends are you seeing when it comes to teens and tweens?There has been quite a bit about cyberbullying and sexting in the media recently; however, there is an even more disturbing trend called Sexcasting.
What is Sexcasting and how are kids doing it?Sexcasting is the creation, sending and receiving of sexually explicit or suggestive digital videos across the internet. These videos can be easily produced via the high-definition cameras that come with most mobile devices, i.e. laptops, tablets and smartphones.
Are kids aware of all the dangers associated with Sexcasting?Most kids are unaware of the dangers associated with Sexcasting. One major risk associated with this trend is when predators use the sexually explicit content to locate the subject and bully, or intimidate them to get sexual favors or additional material from the individual(s) in the video.
Other dangers include the content being made public, whether those involved know it or not, and the legal repercussions for having such content on your devices. The Internet Watch Foundation (IWF) study just revealed that 88% of self-made sexual or suggestive images and videos posted by young people are taken from their original online location and uploaded on to websites called porn parasite websites.
Are there legal ramifications for Sexcasting?It is illegal to take, send or even receive sexually revealing pictures and videos of someone under the age of 17 (even those pictures meant for the high school boyfriend). Many states impose criminal penalties for sexting and Sexcasting. Child pornography laws can be referenced and the individual(s) who receives the sexually explicit content may be required to register as a sex offender.
How can parents approach the subject of Sexcasting with their children?Let’s face it, this is not an easy discussion to have with your children, but the consequences of not talking about it could be significant and extremely dangerous. Here are some tips on how to handle the discussion:
- Keep an open line of communication. Ask questions and listen with an open mind, be non-judgmental and focus on building a stronger relationship.
- Use current events in the media about teens the same age as your child who have suffered as a result of poor decisions online. This can help make the reality seem “more real” to your child. Chances are, you can even find examples right in your own community.
- Make sure your children understand the legal consequences. They need to know that consequences can be life-long and detrimental.
- Talk about the emotional price tags of Sexcasting. Those videos and scenes might be forever available to future boyfriends and girlfriends, spouses, employers, children and grandchildren.
- Know how your child uses technology. If your child has access to a video camera, smart phone or other device that enables video production, make sure you have security controls in place that can monitor what is being recorded and control what is being shared.
- Remember it is not enough to just keep technology devices out of bedrooms and in central locations of the home. Remember that the smart phone is a powerful tool that kids use to go online and that there is no substitute for a watchful eye.